Commitment comes in ever deepening layers – relationship mille-feuille. Just when you think you’ve found another layer of sweet creamy pastry, another just as soft and tasty just lies just below. With each sweet creamy layer, we just fall deeper in love with … um … French pastry?!?
Last weekend.
She knows what I mean, but maybe you need a few more details. Let me foreshadow…it went really well.
- Met the parents – well mine – we did. Check.
- My sister and cousin, who my girl has never met, text with her more than they do with me. Check.
- Of course, it was a bit hairy when she stayed with me for the first time. After a week of scrubbing and disinfecting, I think my place sparkled by man standards, though maybe not like the top of the Chrysler building. Relief and check.
More importantly, there was something amazingly special to spend time together last weekend. We had conversations that projected us together well into the future.
In previous conversations, the tone was more of due diligence and framed as a question – could we make a long distance relationship work? Last weekend the context changed from could it work to how can we make this work. A subtle but noticeable and very emotional shift in the conversation.
Emotional in the context that this isn’t going to be easy. Not only do we have a large body of water between us, but we have local anchors that don’t travel with us when we see each other. We are both thinking about more than just ourselves and playing a bit of Tetris to try and make the pieces fit.
But when it moves beyond exploratory discussion to a commitment to making it happen, oh my, things get very real. The mille-feuille thickened before our eyes. I, rather I mean we, are very excited and a bit scared at the same time to keep going deeper and deeper into this delicious pastry.
It’s just so good, we cannot stop nibbling on it, or each other.